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About Me
She/her. I am a geek girl from the Midwestern U.S.
Trying to find my path.
My tumblr is where I get to share the loveliness that I find on tumblr and beyond.
I love sci-fi including Supernatural, Doctor Who, Torchwood, all things Whedon-y, Orphan Black, zombies, vampires, movies, fiction, music, art, and lots of fun things!
Dirty haiku submissions accepted!
Peace & Love!
I have a Jensen & Jared sideblog, on hiatus currently. stupidperfectj2faces
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Twitter is a mess and I love it.
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All great suggestions
This post gets better every time I see it
“A fucking balrog of morgoth”
“Fly you fucking fools”
“I bid you all a very fucking fond farewell”
“Oh gandalf it was just a bit of fucking fun” “oh you’re probably right as fucking usual”
“Meriadoc brandibuck. And peregrin fucking took. i mightve known.”
I did thi b4. Here’s my choice.
And a wise choice it is indeed
I didnt even think of two towers or return of the king lmfao
Yeah there are some good options. I don’t know I imagine my friend coming back from the dead would have more cussing.
I’m adding this every time.
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It’s the same old story.
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June 2019 - Protesters in Hong Kong use traffic cones to contain the gas from tear gas grenades, then drown them in water. [video]
reblogging for uh. pure scientific purposes
Reblogging for future use.
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Chris Evans in The Red Sea Diving Resort
One of my readers wanted to know if Chris Evans takes his shirt off in it….tl;dr yes.
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You were enough yesterday.
You are enough today.
You will be enough tomorrow.
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cloudytomboy asked: Hey, I feel like I've seen you write about how to help someone who's currently in an abusive situation, but I couldn't find any posts specifically about it? Do you have any general guidelines?
My Golden Rule advice on how to help is to try to do the exact opposite of what an abuser would, on a deep level.
(I’m going to use “she” meaning the survivor for short hand in the following, not to assume gender or pronouns, just for brevity in explaining)
for example–
abusers think they know what she needs better than she does
allies acknowledge that she is a smart, competent person who knows her own life and deserves autonomy over it
abusers think for her and tells her what she should think and should want
allies think with her, and ask her what she thinks and wants
abusers isolate her from other people and decide who she can see and who she can’t
allies respect her decision to see whoever she wants, and don’t enact social punishments for making “wrong” choices
abusers tell her that her emotions are wrong and she needs to stop feeling them
allies validate her emotions no matter what they are, and reaffirm her right to feel them
abusers argue with her to win, and to establish their version of reality as correct
allies argue with her (as will happen sometimes) with the goal of reaching a shared understanding, and to establish a common reality that makes sense to both your experiences
These things seem simple, but when you really commit to them, they’re genuinely hard in practice. It’s tempting when she argues with you that her abuser really loves her to try to assert what you see as the truth (that they’re abusive) and to assume she needs to be corrected because she’s not thinking right, but all you’d be communicating to her is that everyone thinks she’s stupid. It’s tempting to say “if you go back to them, I’m not going to keep visiting you” in the hopes that she’ll stay out, but it will only end up cutting her off from you as a resource. It’s tempting to imply that she shouldn’t love her abuser because they don’t deserve it, but it would only be implying to her that you don’t respect her emotions and she’ll stop trusting you with them.
The key is not to be the savior who can swoop in and get her out of there (as much as that’s probably the fantasy of both you and her at some points).
The key is to be a force that reaffirms her selfhood and autonomy consistently–validates her reality, emotions, boundaries, and needs, and is part of a safe, consistent, reliable support network– so that if and when she decides she wants to leave, she can trust that feeling and she has the resources to actually make it happen.
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@spnhiatuscreations | week 12 | the road so far
part one | part two
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